To save you time, here it is:
- Say no more often.
- Refer to 1.
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We live in the information age. More videos are uploaded to YouTube every hour than you could watch in a lifetime.
People can reach out to you via a dozen different channels.
If you don't reply instantly, you're either dead or the worst person in the world.
The thing is, You've got projects you want to work on.
Projects that require hard work. And hard work is never free. At a bare minimum, hard work requires time.
Everything you say yes to takes away from what you want to be working on and what you know you should be working on.
We all may not know what it is we want to spend our time working on. But we know what we don't want to be working on.
Saying No 101
Start saying no to the things you don't want to do. Start freeing up some white space in your life for projects worthy of your time to fill the gaps.
Your friends want to go out? But you know you hate the club scene and would rather be at home. Don't go.
Someone hits you up and wants to meet for coffee to ask your opinion on something? Do you really need to and see them? Refer them to another resource and have coffee with yourself instead.
When to Say Yes?
There are things in life we don't really want to do but are required of us.
If you're a parent, changing diapers may not be enjoyable but what other option do you have?
You're a hardworking citizen, giving up a portion of your paycheck to taxes sucks. But people have been paying taxes since the dawn of humanity, what makes you different?
Being fit is hard to maintain. Getting fit if you're unfit is harder. Eating well and working out might not be exactly what you want to do every day but it beats being fat.
The photo above is my yes and no list for the end of last year. There were too many things on my yes list. I should've narrowed it down to five.
Having a simple yes and no list reminded me where I wanted to be spending my time. Whenever I felt lost trying to make a decision, I referred to the list.
Anything not in the yes column got a no.
*ML = Machine Learning & DL = Deep Learning
"What about all the missed opportunities from saying no so much?"
Here's where I want to introduce you to my version of FOMO (fear of missing out).
It's called POMO or Pleasure Of Missing Out.
By saying no to other things, you're saying yes to yourself.
Yes to creating your own opportunities.
$1000 Per Hour
Treat your time like your bank account. Pretend your time is worth $1000 an hour. Say no to anything you wouldn't pay $1000 per hour to do.
Keep improving your craft enough and eventually, you won't even have to pretend.
This post originally appeared on Quora as my answer to "What is one habit that can transform your world forever?"